CPED : Consensual Power Exchange Dynamics
Very often we can hear from people in a relationship: “My wife decides this, she knows better than me. As I don’t understand this at all, I just do what she says” or “My husband deals with these issues, I let him make decisions – for me, it is not interesting”.
It would seem like an ordinary situation in the life of any couple, but a closer look reveals an obvious involvement in the process of power exchange. That is, both partners make a mutual decision to transfer responsibility for a certain area of life together to one of them, based on the personal qualities, needs and desires of both. This responsibility opens up opportunities for sole decision-making and giving instructions for action to implement these decisions.
There is an exchange of power over decision-making in a certain area of life. The decision is made by one and executed by the other. Consequently, the responsibility for this decision lies with the one who made it. At the same time, both parties agree with this option for resolving the current situation and follow the established rules for resolving the situation in this area of life together.
Since ancient times, cultural and ideological stereotypes have developed in society that outline the range of generally accepted spheres of power exchanges in a couple: in other words, what a man should decide and what a woman should decide. At different times, those were various stereotypes, depending on the geographical location of the area, religion, social system, cultural background and many other factors. The essence has always been reduced to the existence of a single line of “correct” behavior for couples on the principle of pronounced sexual differentiation. Any twist and turn from this line were subjected to severe condemnation and had a critical negative impact on the fate of not only a person, but the whole family.
Fortunately, our contemporaries are less and less subject to the pressure of imposed archaic dogmatic principles and they more and more often follow their own needs and aspirations. The freedom to choose over the decision-making process and the ability to follow one’s own free will allows you to build the basis of interpersonal relationships within a couple based solely on the needs and desires of partners. Independence from dogmas opens up unlimited horizons for building interpersonal relationships, based on the individual characteristics of each participant in these relationships. At the same time, this imposes certain obligations and requires certain skills: honesty towards yourself and your partner, openness in communication, knowledge of your needs and desires, adequate analysis of opportunities, acceptance of yourself and your partner as they really are, devotion to the ideas of your micro society and the desire to develop healthy relationships in an effort to find harmony.
But what if the needs do not meet the standards, and the vision of harmonious relations goes beyond the norms still preserved in society? What if, analyzing ourselves, we come to the conclusion that we have extraordinary needs that are not inherent in the vast majority of people from our environment? What model of relations can be suitable for finding harmony, if all existing generally accepted social models critically limit or do not completely meet our needs?
It is for such people that CPED exists : dynamics created and developed on the principle of non-linear step-by-step integration of personalized mechanisms of interpersonal interaction and rules of behavior in accordance with the particular needs of all participants in the relationship. Simply put, you yourself create harmonious dynamics guided by the cornerstone principles of Consent and Power Exchange, and do not depend on any other imposed factors. This is not an IKEA assembler, but a LEGO master-builder in the realities of interpersonal relationships!
Of course, to create your unique dynamics, you need to have a certain amount of knowledge and skills that will help you bring to life and put into practice your ideas and visions of harmonious relationships. You can collect them yourself, you may draw knowledge from various open sources on the network, or you can find a mentor who will direct you in the path you have chosen.
We invite you to get acquainted with our vision of the principles of building harmony with ourselves, with the outside world, with the people around us and with our partners: Whitewind Consensual Power Exchange Dynamics. This is the result of a decade of searching, of analytical, practical and spiritual work on the basic principles of building relationships to find harmony, peace, achieve personal and interpersonal goals through unity and division of functions in accordance with personal talents and limits.
Keeping the principle of individual building of own dynamics in accordance with the needs and abilities of each participant, Whitewind CPED offers a set of tools and guidelines for use aimed at facilitating the achievement of certain goals, starting from which the task of building the foundation for personal dynamics is simplified.
The principle of non-linear development implies individual development both for each dynamic and for each participant of a particular dynamic, and allows a variable return to any point in the development of dynamics with minimal damage to the existing dynamics.
Follow the path you choose towards harmony, at the speed that suits you, with people who will make your path pleasant, simple and satisfying! Remember – harmony is the goal and happiness is the way!